hat do you, as a man/woman, most admire about women/men in general? What do you least admire about women/men in general? What do you most fear in a relationship with a woman/man? What is the single, most important expectation you have in a wife/husband?
As Dr. Laura notes, the responses she received from men and women are surprisingly "retro." Most men surveyed really want a feminine woman and most women surveyed desire a masculine man.
Though I read through the answers that the women surveyed gave, I really tried to study the answers from the men. Interestingly enough, many of the responses given are attributes that I either hope to have (being cheerful, loving, kind, courteous, respectful, etc.) or ones that I strive to eliminate (moodiness, manipulation, nagging, negative emotions, an inability to understand, appreciate, and build up my man, etc).
My favorite quote from this chapter is towards the very end:
"JUST DO what you know your spouse needs and wants to feel important to you - what you know any woman or man would appreciate. It will... be lovingly reciprocated."
What I would like to try to work on is my general attitude about what I need to do as a wife, mother, and homemaker. Lately, I have been struggling with being peaceful and cheerful in the evening. Though I try not to verbally complain, I know that my inner complaints can be heard loud and clear through my actions and deep sighs. Yes, it is hard to wrangle a toddler at bedtime! Yes, it is hard to nurse and cuddle a wiggly baby when all you want to do is read and rest without interruption for a few hours. Yes, it is hard to see the rooms you recently tidied strewn with toys, socks and shoes, glasses, and other paraphernalia! This is life. I will feel so much better (and much less guilty) if I am able to finish the day with a cheerful and loving heart rather than one of a poor, pitiful martyr! It will be a struggle, but it can be done.
What is something that you can do that will bless your spouse?